Take a fashion store where 30% of orders come back. If you send gross order value, Smart Bidding optimizes toward revenue that partly never sticks, so reported ROAS looks better than the bank account does. Send net and the numbers are cleaner, but the value only settles weeks later, so the signal is slower and your effective conversion lag gets longer.
Some people handle this with value rules by product category, since return rates vary a lot between jackets and basics. Others leave the feed alone and just factor the return rate into the margin math when they set targets. I lean toward net when returns are high and predictable, but I'm not sure that holds when return rates swing with the season. What are you sending right now?